Thanks to all the Sistergurls who came out to see the movie For “Colored Girls” with us, and, to Ruby Tuesday on Saturday Night.
I thought the movie was very, very good and very deep. Its a trip when you see yourself on the screen in 3-4 of these women at one time or another in your life. And then you sit back and ask yourself “dang, did I really look and act like that”? The painful truth is……… yes. We as women allow ourselves to be treated in ways as we saw in this movie. We can sit up all day and blame the man, but it is us who allow it to continue to happen day after day, after day after day. Situations that we find ourselves in, are the same ones that we “swore on a stack of bibles…..aint gon happen to me”. Well it is you/us. We would sit up as teenagers and stare into the mouths of our mommas, her friends, our aunts, and grandmothers when they would be “having grown folks talk”. And listen to everything they talked about. It was usually about “jive turkey dudes” they were dealing with. We are the same teens that grew up and became the stories that our aunts, grandmothers, and mothers talked about.
How is it that we can go to the movies see ourselves on the screen and get MADDDDDD at Tyler Perry.. because its “depressing”.( side eye) Well, welcome to your own world…..HOME GURL! This is the life YOU/WE penciled in for OURSELVES. What we all saw this past weekend in that movie is real life. You may not have been all of those women, but I know each of us is at least 3 of them. I know and understand that its “painful” to watch, and its “depressing” and it makes you cry, and makes you think, and makes you relive your past. But you know what? This movie will either make you “Level up” or Fall Back” Quit playing……..aint no in between’s. After watching this movie, you’re gonna either go home and put on a “Band-Aid” meaning…… do a self examination of your past/present issues. Or you’re going to “let your wounds continue to bleed” and allow salt and vinegar to nurse your wounds. Tell me you get the picture?
I feel so bad for all the men who let this movie go right over their heads. I read so many tweets and messages from BLACK men who felt Tyler Perry HATES THEM. First of all, this is NOT Tyler Perry’s work. Yes, he may have added something’s for balance. This was a play, and he turned the characters into a movie to bring them to life as it was written in poems. When Daddy’s Little Girls came out, I wonder how many of those same men, took their kids to see that movie? Um hmmmmm. This was NOT a movie to male bash. This is a movie for WOMEN and MEN to look at themselves on the screen and use it to heal. This movie is NOT to blame the BLACK MAN. And truth be told, they saw THEMSELVES, THEIR FATHERS, COUSINS, UNCLES AND FRIENDS in this movie too. They’re not exempt from healing. We all know that all men are NOT gay, NOT abusive, NOT HIV carriers, NOT rapist, NOT baby daddy’s, and NOT cheaters. This movie didn’t say that they all were. I can talk all day until I’m blue in the face on this subject, but to me in music videos the women always are half naked. The men ALWAYS HAVE ON CLOTHES AND COATS. I’m not mad at the rapper who made the video, or feel the need to say” all women are not like that”. It goes WITHOUT saying as far as La’Crease is concerned. Everyone is their own person. Every time I see a flyer advertising for a party, whose on the front cover showing all her goodies, front and back……….a WOMAN. That’s the reason why we ALL need to see For Colored Girls, see yourself on the screen and do a SELF EXAMINATION!!! If you are NOT any of those MEN in the movie…….keep it moving. If you feel its male bashing, then videos with half naked women, and party fliers are female bashing too. Same stuff!
I advise every person to see this movie. Its okay if you feel your wounds opening up. If you fall on the ground scar your leg up, 1 week later its still not healed, you need to revisit that wound and find out what’s the problem. But if you fall and one week later that wound is closed and no matter what you do to it, it won’t open……. YOU’RE HEALED. Don’t be afraid to see this movie, I also think you should also see it alone if you’ve seen it with others. So what if you need to cry, that’s a good thing. Just whatever you do, don’t just go see “the movie” AND come home EMPTY HEADED get YOU SOMETHING OUT OF IT.
My name is La’Crease J. Walker and I approve this message.