“Wanna see how God works? Stay focused on Fantasia”

Hey Sistergurls!!!!

Today, I want to talk a little about depression and suicidal thoughts. I was very sad to hear that one of my favorite female singers Fantasia tried to commit suicide. At first I thought that maybe she had taken over the counter pills, and mixed them with presciption pills which caused her to overdose. But that wasnt the case at all, she had taken a whole bottle of aspirin and a sleep aid. After reading comments tonight and her publicly admitted to wanting to end it all, I couldn’t help but feel concerned. 

At one time or another, I’m sure most of us have thought about suicide.  And if you havent……….. then maybe you should sit this one ( post) out. To those who have had those thoughts, things get hard in our lives and we just want to end it all. But its a selfish act, and many would agree that “it’s the easy way out”. This is why it’s so important to stay under the umbrella of God. Satan can easy catch us off guard, when the issues of life starts to come down in our laps at once. What Fantasia is going through can easy happen to one of us. Hers is magnified because she’s a public figure. But everyday, people have suicidal thoughts because of the issues that builds up in their personal lives. 

I’m going to be the one to break it down to you. 

You cannot live in this world and have a great life without God being apart of it. It can’t be done. And if you try, at one point or another, depression will surely creep up on you and grab you like a thief in the night. It will snatch your mind up, and have you mentally GONE!!! Suicidal thoughts are most times caused by build up of bills, marriage, affairs, jobs, stress, children, relationships, friends, family issues to name a few. We cannot work on these issues alone. This is why is so important to have a DAILY relationship with God.  We should constantly be in prayer. There is no way, we are equip to handle the issues of this world. NO WAY. I told my co-worker just today, why worry about issues of today, when next week you’re going to have a whole new SET!!!  

“Do not be a fool–why die before your time?” (Ecclesiastes 7:17) 

Here is a little of what Fantasia said for tomorrows (Tuesday) “Behind the Music”airing tomorrow night @ 9pm on VH1  



Fantasia Barrino has confirmed that her hospitalization two weeks ago after overdosing on aspirin and a sleep aid was a deliberate attempt to commit suicide.

“I didn’t have any fight in me. I didn’t care about anything. I just wanted out,” the singer tells VH1 in a new “Behind the Music” interview, airing 9 p.m. ET/PT Tuesday, the same day her new album, “Back to Me,” is released. “At that moment, I wanted out. I wanted it to be over with – all of it, all of that [expletive].”

She continues: “I just sat in the closet and looked at the mirror and took all the pills in the bottle. I wanted to go to sleep and just be at peace. I knew exactly what I was doing. You can’t accidentally take a whole bottle of pills.”

Barrino’s manager, Brian Dickens, recalls finding her lying on the floor in her room. “Her emotions were extremely low,” he says. “She’d been crying all day. Fantasia was just numb. Fantasia texted me, saying ‘I love you.’ I wrote back, ‘I love you more.’ Then it hit me.”

“I wrote, ‘You better not do anything or think about doing anything stupid.’ And I left it at that. About 10 minutes later, Fantasia texted me back, and she said, ‘Already did.’ I went into Fantasia’s room and saw her on the floor, and my heart just dropped.”

Fantasia said the stress of her current life experiences became too much to bear.

“I was tired of people doing me wrong, constantly, over and over again, dealing with my family – my father, dealing with men and their [expletive] – I was tired,” she says. “My head was hurting me. I was over it.”

To complicate matters even more, Barrino is now being threatened with a lawsuit by Paula Cook, the wife of Antwaun Cook, with whom Fantasia had been having an affair.

“When I met him, he was separated … wasn’t living in his home. He didn’t want to be back with his wife – that is what I was told,” Barrino says. “I remember waking up in the hospital [and thinking], ‘It didn’t work, I’m still here in this hellhole. Still here with all this drama going on.’”

Ultimately, the singer says the saving grace was her nurse. “My nurse Melanie was a blessing into my life because she didn’t tell me what I wanted to hear,” she says. “She told me what I needed to hear. And she looked at me and said, ‘You gotta get up, and you’ve gotta get out of here, ’cause you haven’t fulfilled your destiny.’”

“I realized how people end up in the grave. Because that one moment [snaps her fingers] of just breaking or feeling like I can’t, I can’t go on, it’s too heavy. That was somewhere I don’t ever want to go again.”



Beautiful Weddings

Growing up I never really thought about a “Dream Wedding”. I can go inside of my mind and not have a clue as to what would be my theme.  SMH… lol I just never really thought it. Oh, I can for sure see my self walking down the aisle, but my husbands face I just can’t see. Who knows, everybody won’t be married in this life. And if that’s the case, you might as well enjoy being single, because that’s your portion. But its all good. 😉


I was browsing on the Essence site and found some wedding photos of couples that bought tears to my eyes. Oh, they are beautiful… each one speaks to me personally.

Time together I believe is so important in a relationship. My Sister and her husband spend each Sunday together. They made it “their day”. A time to come together and share all the things that went on in the week that maybe they didn’t have a chance to discuss. Just to be in each other presence is the most important factor.

I already know I’m going to be a mess on my wedding day! I love this photo because it shows all of the bridesmaids coming together to make sure that their gurl is looking and feeling good. They are her support, they’re supposed to do everything she ask. I don’t care if she’s being a Bridezilla ( hiding), it’s her day!!! But let me say this….. when all the beauty of the wedding is over…….. they have the right to all visit at the same time, and give her a piece of their minds!!! LOL ( In a good way of course)


I’m so loving this HANDSOME photo!!! Look at the groom sitting in the chair with all “his boys” ( groomsmen) surrounding him. Thats whats up!!! Grooming each other all for support. I want my husband to take a photo like this or similar. I know during this time the ladies were wondering what the men were doing. Well, I can say they were looking good!!! 🙂


Look at the kids!!!! Ahhhh, I so love this photo. This is giving me ideas for my friend’s wedding. They all look adorable. I think this was a great idea, you don’t see the kids taking photos like this in weddings, unless they are on the dance floor. LOL This photo is beautiful!!!


As, I was browsing through their wedding photos. It was something about her reminded me of myself. I really love this photo, it says to me… “YES WE DID IT”! What a lovely couple!


Yes, the shoes are on point!!! I am so lovely these babies.


5.29.09 Ive never seen this done, but I love it!!!!! Gone baby 😉


In Jesus name… Amen!

All photos can be found on-line @ Essence.com

*Do not worry*


The bible says: Parrot 2 22Then Jesus said to his disciples: “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat; or about your body, what you will wear. 23 Life is more than food, and the body more than clothes. 24 Consider the ravens: They do not sow or reap, they have no storeroom or barn; yet God feeds them. And how much more valuable you are than birds! 25 Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life[b]? 26 Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest? Luke 12 (New International Version)

Why do people worry so much till the fact that they are stressed out? God is saying…..Look……. the birds don’t have jobs, they don’t know how to use a pen and fill out a resume , they don’t have to stand in the unemployment line, they don’t have to knock on your door and ask you to feed them. They don’t have cars to get here and there, they don’t even know how to cook. And still God makes sure that they eat.

Why is it that WE have little Faith? Why do we worry and stress about something God knew was going to happen, and already have/know the outcome of it? Why do we stress so much, when whatever is going to happen WILL STILL HAPPEN! I say Lord…………..whatever your will LET IT DONE. Let me explain what I mean by that. If my car goes down and I need it fixed and don’t have the money. I may call up my mother, and my sisters, my dad and few friends. And  while I’m asking……..I’m not stressing to get it. And if they all say……hey I don’t have it…….. that’s that. I will go to God and say look dad I need my car fix, I’m not going to stress about it. as a matter of fact………just work it out for me.

 Now you gotta do your part, you just cant say Lord……. I’m hungary and all of sudden a pot of hot dogs is boiling…..and a pitcher of kool aid is mixing in thin air LOL. I mean for real. Do your part and leave the rest to God. dont be calling up your family and friends transferring your stress to them because you cant handle whats going on. Do all you can do, and leave the rest to God. If you were tired and was walking with someone who said *Let me take some stress off you, and let me carry your books………………would you? If God is saying…..let me get that…….. I got you……… I’ll carry your load………..youre tired chile………. Im good at this………………..this is what I do……………LET HIM!! Its okay.

See we get so depended on each other and ourselves till we are messed up with Pride, and we cant release the issues of life to God. Its not suppose to be like that.

All day long we can show and tell our children how surely we are that we going to get them something for their BD. That we are going to invite their close friends for a sleep over, we can tell our kids that we are going to make them their favorite meal. We can promise our children all day long, that, for them having such good report cards, that we are going to reward them with  spending money………………….. we expect them to believe us.


Here we have the Creator of All of us and all things, and we don’t believe him. How is that so? Whats up with that?

Why in the world would you want to worry about anything, when he said in his word………”Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat; or about your body, what you will wear. How can we still worry off that Scripture? But we expect our children to believe us!!!!

Let’s allow God to do what he do, and take care of us. People we are worrying for FREE. That’s FREE to worry about something. He already said Boo I got you. Why in the world is it so hard to understand that?

Cause Cre wants to know.